Scenario 2 - The Self Obsessed Person

Do you know this person? are you this person?

You have a problem, so you go to your friend for a shoulder to cry on and you leave feeling worse than before!
This type of person turns every conversation around so the attention is on them. You've gone to talk about a problem and instead of listening to you, you see them either start to lose interest or they start getting defensive saying stuff like 'its not me is it?' , hold up 1 darn minute, lets get back to me, the focus should be on me here, this ISN'T about you!

How do you resolve this one with out stressing yourself out more and without hurting your friends feelings?

Are you a lover not a hater, a good friend and always there to console and help people around you. But when you need someone it is not reciprocated.
Don't be bitter, these types of people need attention and maybe sometimes you feel they don't always have your best interests at heart.
In my experience this person needs you more than you need them. I was in this position for many years, i'd mention my friends behaviour to other people and this only caused more upset and a feeling of betrayal. The way to deal with this is talk.

Too simple?, its not, you will not get anywhere & your relationships will not flourish if there are feelings of resentment.Tell this person exactly how you feel.You can do this without being abrupt, but do this with the unmoveable belief in your mind that the situation will have a favourable outcome.

Keep on keeping on.